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By: Jon Liebling (letter
originally sent to Heather) - It's unfair. Bob has always
represented all of the good that can occur in a human;
Integrity. Humor. Honesty. Style. Passion.
Intelligence. Sensitivity. Humanity. Dignity.
Compassion. Courage. What's the deal? Why on Earth are the good guys
taken from us long, long before their time?
I am so happy to have been fortunate
enough to call Bob my friend. I have always valued my relationship
with you both, and have always found joy and comfort in the fact that we
could go for months - sometimes years - without talking, and then fall
right back into that comfortable friendship that we all
enjoyed...Effortlessly.
- The love and commitment between you and Bob
has always been an inspiration for me. Bob was a lucky man in many
ways, and luckiest in the fact that he found you along his
journey. A journey that was far too short, yet as rich and full as
any man could hope to travel in this world.
- Thank you so much for finding me during my
trip to California, and for your graciousness during our visit. I
came close to missing that opportunity to see you both, and to seeing
Bob for the last time.
-
-
- By: John Wall - I woke up on
Tuesday morning to this e-mail from a friend:
"Robert Urich was an
actor whose success and longevity transcended the bounds of mere
performer. He was lodged in our collective psyche as a friend and
confidant, as the Everyman we all recognize within ourselves and within
our culture. Few actors ever achieve such status. It takes talent,
perseverance, and an unshakable sense of truth. As you know I thought he
was a terrific actor. He turned in performances that are etched in my
mind. He will be missed by all of us."
Fifteen years ago, in the town where I
had spent most of my life, my wife met Robert. Every one else called him
Bob, but for she and I it was always Robert. He had moved there and was
restoring an estate and looking for an assistant. He was the talk of the
town. Every day the locals would brag of sightings and conversations
that they'd had with him. Robert took a liking to my wife and he offered
her a job. I would wait anxiously for her to arrive home and share the
day's activities. I would ask if Burt or Tom had called. No. What about
some famous agent or reporter? No. She'd smile, and tell me the plumber
had called and he'd be by to fix the upstairs toilet tomorrow. Months
passed and every morning my wife would make her way to the Urich house.
It was winter, Robert was doing Lonesome Dove. She saw very little of
him and I still had yet to meet him. Finally one day I picked up my wife
and there he was, Robert Urich. He was planting bulbs. He looked up,
smiled and went back to the bulbs. Liz came out and went over the day's
activities as he continued to plant. Finally she introduced me as her
husband. He stood, shook my hand, made a nice comment about my wife, and
went back to planting bulbs. That was it. He was home due to a writer's
strike and was putting the finishing touches on the house-something only
he could do. Liz would come home with tales of Robert sweeping, dusting,
mowing, and rearranging furniture. Then there were the lamps and plants.
I bet I've seen Robert move them 1,000 times in my life. It was always
about comfortable light for him. He could make a room change with a
little shift here or there, and when it was done he would sit quietly
and enjoy what he had achieved. I tried not to bother him when found
that perfect unity-let someone else break the moment. One of my fondest
memories of Robert is at his home in Canada in the morning sweeping,
cleaning, moving plants to get that perfect light to enjoy his coffee by
the lake. He was always so happy when he found it.
So he's mowing, and again I am picking
up my wife. He walks over to say goodbye to her, and sees some golf
clubs in my truck. He takes off his sunglasses, picks up a club and asks
where I play.
I tell him that my family has a
membership in the next town at a rather average but very private club.
He knows the course instantly and says, " That's a Donald Ross
design". "Yes I know". I ask if he would like to play. We set
some time for the next day. It is a hot summer day and the course is
empty. I throw our bags on a cart, Robert asks if we can walk. Walk?
Hmm.... Maybe this won't be so bad after all.
Robert didn't have much of a game then,
neither did I, but it was my home course and I knew how to get around
it. Any one who knows golf knows Donald Ross: narrow fairways, tiny
sloping greens, and ugly bunkers. We finished in about 3 1/2 hours. We
spoke very little and he didn't break 100. I finished under 100 and
figured that Robert would get in his car, go home and we'd never play
again. As we walked of the 18th green toward the pro shop, he turned and
said how much he had enjoyed the round and could we play another 9?
Another 9? He had acted like he'd been in the dentist chair for the past
3 1/2 hours, but this was Robert Urich so I said yes.
So, Robert and I walk into the pro shop
and he sees a set of new Hogan irons and woods, turns to me and says,
"You can't get these anywhere you know?" He doesn't understand where he
is. This is a club full of WASPS, New England WASPS, maybe the cheapest
people on earth. The clubs will be half off after Labor Day and they
will sell that morning. He picks them up, takes a swing and looks at the
asst. pro Leo, and says, "I'll take them." He pulls out his wallet,
hands Leo his AMEX. Leo looks like he's about to have a heart
attack-this will be the biggest sale in the club's history, costing more
than most members ever spent. "Sir," Leo say's "we don't accept American
Express." Bob pulls out his Visa. "Sorry Sir, we don't accept Visa". Now
I watch Leo as Bob starts counting out cash. Turns to me and asks if I
have any cash. Before I answer, Leo says, "Sir, we don't except cash."
Robert turns to Leo and says, "Well, Leo, how can I buy these? Having
seen all I can take, I let Leo know it is OK to put them on my house
charge and off we go. That 9 turned into 18 as we laughed about Leo and
other county club stories. We shared out pasts, passions and feelings.
It happened that simply-we had a connection and that connection would be
with me forever.
Four weeks ago Robert called me and
insisted that I come to Sherwood and play golf. He was so proud of his
club and enjoyed taking his friends there. It was a cold, damp Friday
morning. Robert was clearly not feeling well. I asked if maybe we should
do it another time but he wanted to play. I now know he knew time was
getting short for him. We played 8 holes; he was too tired to finish the
ninth. Had lunch in the locker room, talked golf, talked about my kids,
about the future. I think that was his way of saying goodbye to
me.
We rarely traveled with out finding time
to play. It was my mission to get us on the classic courses: Pine
Valley, Marion, Seminole, but never Augusta National, home of the
Masters. Several times we were scheduled to play but could not make the
time. Last weekend, while Tiger Woods was getting his 3rd green jacket,
we started losing Robert. As I said my goodbye to him, letting him
know I'll be there for his family, that I loved and will miss him, he
stirred, tried to open his eyes and held my hand gently. I let him know
that Tiger had won, he raised his eyebrows and turned his head. That was
good bye for us.
I'll play Augusta some day, he will be
in my heart and I'll miss him dearly. Cancer is not a good word. When
we found out Robert had it we were shocked. Not Robert. He was so
strong, so caring and so loving. I have already begun to forget about
the treatment, the chemo, the surgery, and the constant knowledge of him
not feeling well. What I will never forget is the support, courage, and
love he spread to the millions of people who were touched by it. He had
a way of making people lose their fear. He truly believed that the cure
was coming. I would always say, Robert got up every day and said today
is the day they are going to find a cure. We all know about the TV
Shows, MOWs, and commercials. I hope someday we remember Robert as a man
who created a fund that helped find a cure for the illness that took
him.
For those of us who spent time with
Robert, there are so many memories. Looking for his glasses, washing his
car, floating on his back at the lake he loved so much in Canada,
cleaning up around the house and enjoying a meal with friends that
everyone help prepare. For his family there are so many more.
Robert and I spent over 400 nights alone
traveling. That's 1,200 meals. We talked a lot about our families. He
would tell me how much he loved his mom and dad. He'd talk about his
Mom-Baba, how he got so much of his strength from her. His older brother
Tom-who introduced him to his career, his sister Monica or Sis as they
all call her. She is a wonderful mother who has 7 children. And David,
his youngest brother. He liked David's humor and loved his boys. He'd
say he should to call them more. I know he loved them more than he ever
told them. They will miss him too.
Allison came to the family 4 years ago.
He'd call her his little Marilyn Monroe. She hits the ground running
every day. I can still see him holding her little hand as they walk
through the garden telling her not to pick all the flowers. She will
grow up with an image of Robert we all should remember. Emily, his first
daughter; so strong, competitive and hard working. He always knew she'd
find her way to success and happiness. He loved her very much. Ryan, his
son, always challenged Robert. Forced him to look at things differently.
Robert was always worried about him. As Robert passed on Tuesday it was
Ryan who, held his hand, comforted his Mom and fought for him. He became
the man of the house that night. Robert would have been so proud.
Heather....the love of his life, his
soul mate. I know you know how much he cared for you, knew you, and
loved you. On Monday night we were in his closet-it smelled like him.
You said he promised not to go. He hasn't forgotten his promise. He's
here now, in your car, in the house, and most importantly in your heart.
He will always be there.
On Sunday afternoon, we knew we were
losing Robert. I called several friends who are writers. I am not too
good with words. They all wrote wonderful things about my friend. But he
would have wanted me to write this. So I did. I heard his words, felt
him with me and he guided me. I will never forget all he meant to me. He
challenged me, made me laugh and loved my family. It's going to take
some time to get over this.
Robert, I hope you have found a place in
heaven, and there is the house with plenty of plants and lamps for you
to move-where you can sit in a big chair by a fire and watch the seasons
change. I hope Donald Ross has designed 18 perfect holes to challenge
you, I hope there'll be a lake where you can watch the sun go down and
float on your back as you love to do at the cabin in Canada. I hope
there's a backyard where you can plant your tomatoes and cucumbers, and
a garden full of blooming flowers.
I hope you are there
already, Robert. We all love and will miss you dearly.
-
-
- By: Guy
& Florence Carbonneau -
- Our friendship with Robert and Heather go back to over 25
years. It is a friendship
that does not require a weekly lunch or a phone call every day. It is a friendship that maybe,
you touch base once in a while - maybe you meet once, twice a year. Maybe you go fishing or diving,
or just spend a little time together. It is an enduring
friendship.
-
- Burt Reynolds has said that Robert was the most loyal friend he
ever had. Many people who
knew Robert would say the same thing. It speaks volumes about the
character and integrity of this man. It speaks about a beautiful
mind.
-
- It is somewhat fitting to refer to the dates of Robert's life
from the beginning, December 1946 to the end, April 2002. First comes the date of his
birth, followed by the date that God chose to take him from us. But, what I believe matters the
most, is the tiny little dash between those years.
-
- You see that tiny little dash represents all the time that Robert
spent alive on this earth...and now only those who loved him, and knew
him, know what that little line, the little dash, is worth.
-
- It didn't matter to Robert, how much we own: the cars...the house...the
cash. What mattered to him
is how we live, love, and how we spend our little dash.
-
- Robert would like us to think about this long and hard...are
there things we'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left. We could be mid-way in our
little dash.
-
- Robert would tell us to just slow down enough to consider what's
true and real and always try to understand the way other people
feel.
-
- He would tell us to be less quick to anger and show appreciation
more, and love the people in our lives like we've never loved
before. If we treat each
other with respect and more often wear a smile, remember, that this
special little dash, the dash between Robert's dates, might only last a
little while.
-
- So, as we end this little testimony about Robert and his life, we
are proud of the things they say about how he spent his life, the little
dash between his dates.
-
- Now its time to say good-bye, but for sure, not a lasting
good-bye. You see our faith
tells us that Robert is far better off now than all of us. And yes, now and then when
Florence and I look at you Heather, Ryan, Emily, and special little
Allison, a tear may come to our eye, but with that tear a smile will
also come. A smile that is
representative of having known a great friend, your friend. We will miss him dearly.
-
- God bless you Heather, Ryan, Emily, and Allison. And God bless Robert Urich, our
friend.
-
-
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- By: Mary Ann Schmidt - APRIL 19, 2002
My
husband, Bill, and I left the house at 8:30 A.M. and drove to St.
Charles Church on Moorpark Street in North Hollywood. We arrived at the
church at 9:25 and were directed to park at the church school parking
lot which was at that time empty.
On the walk to the church we saw an "Eyewitness" news van parked
outside in front of the church.
I felt a pang of intrusion, but who was I to feel that way. Family and friends of
Robert would think we were
the same and I sincerely thank the family for having an open service - I
needed to be there.
I
signed the guest book for both of us and noted "Thousand Oaks" so they
would know we were caring neighbors. When we entered the church at 9:40 it
was half full and people continued to file in up to the start time of
10:00. It was respectfully
and comfortably filled with people who admired a man - a cherished human being most of us wished we
could live up to.
The
church was beautiful with intricate molding adorning the high ceilings
and a dark wood crucifix
surrounded by dark wood carvings.
The priest who spoke
had also baptized Allison, Robert and Heather's four year-old
daughter. He spoke of that
day four years earlier as a day of happiness and when they had gone to
the gathering at the Urich's home, he had seen a private moment between
Robert and baby Allison. He
was playing with her - just the two of them. He was beaming with a father's special joy.
The
priest went on to console us with mention of how we shouldn't feel
cheated because Robert was taken from us too soon. If we live 20, 50 or 80 years,
it still is an instant when compared to eternity with the Lord. I tried to take comfort from
those words, but it was too difficult.
A
number of speakers shared stories . The first was John who had met
Robert through his wife who was helping with renovations at the Urich house a
number of years ago. Bob
has been planting bulbs in his garden (he was an avid gardener). He looked up and said hello and
went back to planting. The
next time John saw him, Bob noticed golf clubs in his car and they set a
date for them to play. They played eighteen grueling holes and Robert
wanted to play 8 more. They
had a fun day but John didn't think he'd ever hear from Robert
again. But he was wrong, it
was the start of a beautiful friendship. Four weeks ago, Robert called
John and told him to come out to Lake Sherwood and play golf in his
backyard. After a few
rounds, Bob was tired and they sat down and talked of family and friends
- "Robert was saying good-bye."
John softly said.
Dr.
Dyrk was next and his friendship with Robert had lasted 20 years. He also spoke of Robert's love
for gardening. He was
always leaving coffee cups out there. Dr. Dyrk even said to Heather,
"go out to the garden, you'll probably find one." We smiled.
Robert loved to dust and rearrange lamps and furniture and sit
down and survey what he had accomplished. Robert was a man's man - don't
doubt it for a second. He
hunted and hiked and fished and skied. But Robert himself had admitted he
was a male "Martha Stewart".
Along with gardening he loved to be in the kitchen creating. He arranged bowls of fruit and
sometimes flowers from his garden.
In the last couple of years he jokingly warned his toddler not to
pick "all of the flowers."
His
brother Tom, 12 years his senior had a great story which especially
touched my heart. When they
were young they would play mumblypeg. You had to flip a pocket knife
off your arm or chin or whatever and it had to land blade first into the
dirt. Whoever won planted a
matchstick. Whoever lost
had to dig it out with their teeth. Since Robert was so much younger
he was usually the "dirt eater".
Later when Robert was Dan Tanna in Vega$, Tom was a guest
villain. Dan was supposed
to chase the bad guy and tackle him. When it was shot, Dan chased Tom
and caught him, turned him around punching him in the stomach - knocking
the wind out of him. He
whispered into Tom's ear, "this is for making me eat dirt". We laughed knowing how
competitive brothers can
be. Then a tearful Tom
said, "if we could have you back, I'd eat dirt every day for the rest of
my life."
Robert's son, Ryan, told us how much his father had spoiled him
and how he had resented it a little when friends teased him. But he knew it was only because
his father loved him so much.
There was a bond there that was undeniable. Ryan showed us the ukulele that
his father bought him not
too long ago. Ryan had
searched the internet for instructions on how to play it and played a
little for us.
A
friend from Robert's hometown of Toronto, Ohio, went to school with Tom
and Monica and stated that Robert would come for reunions and gave
generously to his former school.
They had named a street after him there.
A
writer/producer from the "Love Boat - next wave" was the next speaker
and he told us that Bob would do anything for laugh. He'd been the star of so many
hour dramas that people may not know just how funny this great man could
be. They did horrible
things to his hair, hit him in the face with a volley ball so that he
would have to wear temporary braces and talk "funny". I remember that episode and it
was very funny. After the
Love Boat ended, he asked Bob to be in his play and Bob said, "sure,
I'll do it". Then he told
him his character was supposed to fall in love with him at the end. Robert was to say, "I never
realized just how blue your eyes are." Bob asked , "you mean I'm
supposed to be gay?" And the writer said, "Not necessarily, you're just
exploring your feelings."
And of course Bob did it, with panache I'm sure.
An
actress, I'm sorry I didn't get her name, said she had made a movie with
Robert 15 years ago and didn't get to kiss him, I sympathized. And later she was in that same
aforementioned play, she still didn't get to kiss him because he was
"exploring his feelings".
We laughed.
She then thanked Heather for letting her kiss him in the hospital
when she said goodbye.
Since we were seated toward the rear of the church we were able
to see the mourners leave.
The casket was first, covered in lilacs - his favorite
flowers. Heather was in
rightful place alongside her soul mate. His family followed and a very
sad Emeril was with them.
My heart went out to them all.
We
left by the side door to avoid the crowd and TV cameras. The drive home was spent in
quiet reflection. The sky was unnaturally blue with huge fluffy white
clouds. I was glad it
wasn't a dreary day. It was
one of the worst days of my life, but I wouldn't have missed it for the
world.
I'd
like to say something from
my heart. Most of my
friends and family think I don't have a right to grieve. I'm told Robert was just a TV
actor, you didn't really know him.
I deeply resent
this. This special
man shared himself with everyone and anyone who had a question or
problem. The internet was a Godsend to us. It brought us Robert. On a serious note, he helped
countless people with questions about cancer. On a more personal note he told
us his favorite color was blue and he enjoyed soups and stews and his mother's
nut bread. That he liked to
garden and play golf with a passion. One Halloween he took Allison
out as Tweety and was considering being Sylvester. I don't think he did it, but
that would have been something to see. He gave us advice in general and
sometimes to us individually.
He told me once when I asked how I could cope better with my
problems and he said, "the past is done. You can't change it - so don't
dwell on it. The future is
uncertain, so don't count on it.
All we really have is the present. Live each day one day at a time
and make the most of it."
I had heard this before, but this time it was from Bob. He had such profound influence
on us. Because his heart
was always in the right place.
He indulged us in silly trivial chats. Before he had the "Ask Robert"
page, we had open chats and sometimes Heather would join us and once or
twice Bob did too. We
compared this man to candy - because to us he was definitely a
TREAT. Then came the Great
Eye color debate. Are they
brown or hazel? Heather
wrote on Jan 8, 1998, that a family discussion had been prompted by my
belief that his eyes were hazel.
The reason I brought this up was to illustrate how generous the
Urich's are to include us in a very wide extended family. On an episode
of the Love Boat he was told that table linens were missing and he told
the purser to take care of it, just make sure the color of the
tablecloths matched his
eyes. I'm sure he added
that for us RUFFians. RUFF stands for Robert Urich Friends Forever. I can't speak for everyone, but I know I will
never forget him and will be his friend forever.
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